Divorce is a life changing event that may seem overwhelming and even scary. If you are considering a divorce or currently going through one, you may be thinking, “How will I get through this? How will my kids be affected? Does this mean I will be alone for the rest of my life?” When the future is uncertain, it is easy to focus on the negative but I want to remind you that you always have a choice to focus on the positive instead.
No matter what the circumstances, there is always a bright side. And if you focus your attention on the GOOD things that this type of change will bring into your life as opposed to resisting the change and staying in an unhealthy, unhappy marriage, you may look back on your divorce and realize that it was one of the best things that ever happened to you!
1. It’s time to reconnect and love yourself.
Toxic relationships often drain you because you have to devote all your time and energy to just trying to get through the days. When the relationship ends, you may find it difficult to enjoy your alone time because you no longer know yourself. The toxic relationship made you lose touch with who you really are, but now that the relationship is over, you can take all the time you need to rediscover the things that make you happy and rebuild the most important relationship of all—your relationship with yourself.
2. Being a single parent is healthier for your family than modeling an unhealthy relationship.
You might be worrying about the effects a divorce will have on your children, but have you considered the effects that a bad marriage will have on them? Children often imitate and seek out the types of relationships they are exposed to while growing up, so if you want to teach your children that they deserve to have healthy, loving, and respectful relationships in their own lives, you must set the example for them.
3. Divorce clears a path for you to find your true love.
If you settle for a relationship that is not working with a person that does not make you feel respected and fulfilled, you will never experience the type of love and commitment that you deserve. Instead of feeling sad because your partner is not your true love, take comfort in knowing that your true love is still out there! The sooner you can separate yourself from the toxic relationship, the sooner you can begin to heal so you can move forward with a clear vision of what you want in a partner.
Life after a divorce is all about what you make it. Even though the relationship did not work out, you are not a failure and your time was not wasted because you learned a lot about yourself and what you don’t want in your relationships going forward. Be proud of yourself for having the courage to leave the toxic relationship behind and move forward by investing in yourself and your own happiness!